Monday, November 14, 2011

Holidays..Relationships..and that L word

Re·la·tion·ship noun A connection, association, or involvement. An emotional or other connection between people. A sexual involvement; affair. -Courtesy of

Have you ever had someone tell you that you need to be dating? Or how about telling you that you need to be in relationship? I have had all of this and even someone ask me why am I still single. Just recently someone mentioned to me that it is the holidays, I need to date. I literally laughed out loud at that. Who knew that the holidays meant you had to be in a relationship/dating? ::shrugs::

To be told that you NEED to date or you NEED to be in a relationship really makes for a good discussion. In my opinion, relationships should not be entered into just as something to "do". When your a teenager relationships are all fun and games, puppy love and all that. But when your almost 30, it is no longer a game. You get (or you should) tired of jumping from relationship to relationship with them all ending with you feeling like WTH?! You know you were in them too, don't even fake. Those ones that you thought were with that ONE, that'd last forever, etc. etc. I've been to a host of weddings this year and I do mean a HOST! I love seeing other people in love and getting proposed to and all of that. When it's my time, it will happen. Around the holidays people seem to date around, bring so and so to dinner and then by the New Year nobody in your family hears anymore about them.

The other day a friend of mine was telling me how she doesn't want to go to family dinner for Thanksgiving because she'll be the only single one there. It's important not to focus on the fact that you'll be the only "single" one there. You never know what is going on in another person's relationship. In front of the camera it all looks lovey dovey, but behind closed doors it could be an unhealthy relationship that they are in. I don't envy anyone who is in a committed relationship/marriage. I am however happy for them. I don't compare my life or relationship to the next person's and to be honest you should not either. Every relationship has a story...good or bad.

This brings me to that L word that some people (male and female) dread.
----> LOVE. ::Que the scary music:: With most relationships where you've both decided to be committed to one another, one of you starts to think of love...will you love them, will they love you love them, do they love long will you'll last? All of that. Like many people, I've been in a relationship where I gave it all that I could..loved that person dearly. Needless to say, it didn't work out. I know someone who has basically given up on relationships all because they were hurt by one person. So now everyone they "date" get's treated badly. It's sad...sometimes it just takes that ONE for it to ruin it for everyone in the future. I haven't given up on love...nor a future relationship with that special guy. I am no expert in love and relationships. I always say that good things come to those who wait. It's cliche' but it really is the truth. I don't know what the future holds for me as far as a relationship goes. I am patiently waiting to find out though. I am pretty sure THAT guy is out there for me. ;-)

It's time to get this holiday season started! 'Tis the season to fall in love, get married and have a gang of kids! Just kidding.....Happy Holidays ya'll and thanks for reading!